I WEAR WHAT I WANT: SOME MESSY HAIR, BITCHES


                                                               (First and Second post here)

I used to feel guilty about leaving the house a hot mess. As a fat woman, I felt obligated to compensate for my failure of my body shape by making sure that I had adorable hair, shaved legs, a cohesive outfit, etc etc etc, y'know... to ease society's visual pain. Or at least so they couldn't look at me and say "Well SHE'S really let herself go." All you fat ladies afraid to wear sweatpants in public know what I'm talkin' about. Nod your heads with me. Mmmhmmmm.

Not today. I may not be wearing sweatpants, but I didn't touch a brush to my hair, makeup to my face, or a razor to my legs. I was probably pretty gross by someones standards. And the awesome part? I felt like a babe anyways.



I felt like SO much of a babe, that I danced my ass off before leaving the house to run errands. And took ridiculous pictures so you could enjoy it as well. You're welcome.




The above is my (icantbelieveijustpostedthisonline) "Unh, what?" dance move.  Which, if you do it in a short skirt shows more than you'd like. Thank god for eep stars. And since we're talking about hair, can we just take a second to revel in the awesome of Katie's? I got to stare at this beauty all throughout lunch today. Makes a girl swoon.


So, now it's your turn. We all limit our appearance to some degree to follow the socially acceptable rules.  But QUIT IT ALREADY. What are you going to wear this week that you usually never let yourself?

23 comments

  1. Can I just teleport you into my house to hang out with me all the time? You are adorable.

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    1. I second that... I think just 5 minutes a day with you would make life so much better for me. You're so confident and actually make me feel more confident about myself. I haven't worn sleeveless since becoming fat and think this weekend is a sleeveless weekend (its against dress code at work or I would say tomorrow is sleeveless day). I also think I may need to invest in a skirt, I don't own any and you make them look gorgeous so I think I'll give it a try.

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  2. Ha, your dancing photos cracked me up, love it!

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  3. Hummm I have no limits.
    I haven't shave my legs since a month and half ago. I wash my hair when I got enough time, I don't care if they do not fit right.
    I wear what I want, but at work there is some rules so... But I still wear stupid shirt, or a dress with fun colors, whatever I want.

    When I was 20, I used to care a lot about what people can say about me, I care about rules. Now I m 32 years old, and really i don't care (I think since I was 30). I m the way i am, that all. I m enjoying life so much now that I used to.

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    1. GOOD for you!!!!!!!!!!! Yay! What an inspiration:)

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  4. Your dancing photos are probably the best thing I've seen on the internet all week. I love how comfortable you've become, especially with adding photos of you no fixing yourself up to society standards, I definitely admire that!

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    1. They're definitely silly. I love that I feel comfortable posting them for 300 people to see:)

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  5. Is that Elvis in the background? The way he's looking at you suggests he thinks you're pretty hawt!

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  6. Yeaaaaahhhhh, hot mama! Work it, work it, work iiiiiiiit!

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  7. Are you doing the Elaine dance (from Seinfeld)? Lurvs it!

    I pretty much wear whateva in my off-work hours. I esp. love skirts.

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  8. Hey, messy hair is "in"! It's called tousled, and I rock that look (yes, as a fat girl) daily. As long as there's a headband, clip, or bobby pins, it looks intentional.

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  9. First of all your house looks awesome. I love the decorations. Also, those pictures are hilarious, they made me laugh (in a good way).

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  10. Hey there. First - I love your house. So awesome! Second - hell yes to messy hair! Ever since I saw a pin on pinterest that just said simply: EMBRACE MESSY HAIR - I've been working on that. After all, I'd love to have Jenny Aniston's hair, but dude, how long does that actually take to create? And as the meme says: "Ain't nobody got time for that sh*t." Love this post. Rockin'

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  11. I'm still working on breaking all of those "socially acceptable rules". I actually stayed home tonight instead of going to a birthday party because I can't go to some sort of social event without completely redoing my hair, washing my face, dressing "nice"... blegh. I don't even know most of the people there!

    I'll get to that point of being comfortable with how I present myself, I'm sure. I won't be giving a damn what my friends friends think, wearing whatever I want and not sitting "ladylike" at the table.

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  12. Social standards are sucky. They suck suck suckity suck. I think your hair is fucking fantastic! Personally I like it when people don't have their hair coiffed to perfection, so you're totally bitchin' in my book! =D

    And I just choose to not wear makeup sometimes. It takes a really long time to put the stuff on that I just don't care (/I wake up late and need to get my ass to school). Fortunately, at an all women's college, lot's of people don't give a shit.

    By the way, I cracked up at the eep star!

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  13. You have an Elvis picture. (Or at least a picture of someone who looks a LOT like Elvis!) This automatically makes you awesome!

    This week I've been wearing neon high-tops, which I never, ever thought I would wear!

    Becky
    xx

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  14. I am a fat girl, for sure. Even after pulling myself out of depression, learning to eat sustainably healthy and balanced and learning to exercise because I love myself, and losing 100 pounds, I am still a fat girl. But, I feel better about myself little by little every day, as I take steps to live and love my life.

    Aside from my body fat image issues, my hair makes me sad. I have always had fine thin hair, which got even finer and thinner after a misdiagnosis that had me on Immuno-suppressants for two years. think Chemotherapy drugs and how that affects hair. I dye my hair red, regularly, but long for long, thick, luscious hair. I want to not see my scalp through my hair. I cringe when I see pictures, almost more for my hair than for my weight!

    I won't be able to afford things like weave or good wigs, so I just have to learn to live (and love it) somehow.

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  15. I'm sure some people out there will think I'm a horrible person for this, but: I do not shave my legs, period. Under the arms, sure, because that can get pretty gross and chafey if you don't, but there is -no- good reason to shave one's legs except to live by what society has dictated are the rules of womanhood.

    Nor do I wear makeup unless I feel like it. It's been months. XD

    The clothing aspect, however, I tend to have an issue with. I'm very fashion conscious. Although perhaps that has less to do with being a proud fat woman, and more to do with what I do and don't like on myself. *nod*

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  16. People need to be just people lets focus on happiness and not on hairly legs. I have more important things un my life than this. I lob your blog and u know what- u r hot just becouse u r u

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  17. You do not look bad! Lol my parents were always like "If you go outside, you have to look good." They've always pressured me to wear make-up. I don't like make-up. I only wear it on special occasions. That's how I roll.

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  18. lol just discovered your blog and I am so in love. This made me think about how I felt yesterday. I usually wear a cami and a sweater to work. Toward the end of the day it got to be super hot and I was dying to take off my sweater, something I NEVER do because of my fear that people will stare at my rolls and, basically, judge me based on my overweightness. I was so hot :(. Kept telling myself no, don't do it, people will laugh at you or think you're fat.... but then I thought, psh?! no one is going to SAY anything to me about it, because nothing is wrong with the way I look and no one cares that I have rolls anyway lol. It's all in my head. So I made myself take it off and stayed that way till I got home. I felt so much better (physically) and proud of myself for putting my fear aside. It's been a long road to this point in my life, and I'm gonna keep on going. Anyway, long story short, thank you for making this blog hehe :).

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