tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4055363314023822240.post711434197452635153..comments2023-05-10T02:26:32.149-07:00Comments on The Militant Baker: "STILL NOT ASKING FOR IT": LIORA KJes The Militant Bakerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14842115723190733209noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4055363314023822240.post-45186031818714531242013-05-20T20:29:14.872-07:002013-05-20T20:29:14.872-07:00Move on with your life and repeat repeat repeat wa...Move on with your life and repeat repeat repeat was not my fault xoxoAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4055363314023822240.post-13904221868619016202013-05-19T20:10:27.370-07:002013-05-19T20:10:27.370-07:00It is best to let it go or it will eat you up insi...It is best to let it go or it will eat you up inside your life has so much to learn and feel that one event should not defi ne who you are as a person just grow from it Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4055363314023822240.post-9653066165498010462013-05-01T23:13:38.514-07:002013-05-01T23:13:38.514-07:00I was a victim of sexual abuse (I say was a victim...I was a victim of sexual abuse (I say was a victim as I no longer feel like a victim). It was a family member and I used to fear being raped too, now I accept that things like this can happen and while I do try and make sure I don't put myself in a position where this can happen again, I don't let it rule my life anymore.Nadinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00702089824434922453noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4055363314023822240.post-3712990179383408662013-03-23T06:19:48.416-07:002013-03-23T06:19:48.416-07:00This breaks my heart so much. But I know that I do...This breaks my heart so much. But I know that I do more of the prevention than I ever thought I would. I walk to my car with my keys in between my knuckles, I cover up my body a lot, and I never go to parties without my fiance by my side. <br /><br />I hope that there is one day when we wouldn't have to worry about this. That there is a society that would stop all of this madness from occurring. I know that's far away, but there's always hope, right?Cassiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12342606127883369290noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4055363314023822240.post-30607768972372857332013-03-21T17:39:52.918-07:002013-03-21T17:39:52.918-07:00I didn't mean it's ever the girl's fau...I didn't mean it's ever the girl's fault--it's not. And I most certainly would never say this. I probably should have said to "expect the possibility". As in to expect the possibility that you might be mugged when you're walking around at night alone on the city's streets. It's not the fault of the person being mugged, but they should always be aware that it's a possibility. Am I saying this is okay? No. But it's the way society is at this time. It happens. I agree that it was your ex bf's fault for raping you--not yours. And in that situation you certainly couldn't have predicted he might have done that. Which is why I was sticking solely to party situations/being passed out drunk, which is when the excuse of "she was asking for it" is used.<br /><br />I'm sorry you thought I, too, use the excuse of "she was asking for it." I don't. Re-reading what I wrote I can see how it looks like that's what I said, but it's not. (I meant the phrase in general as it pertains to other situations when I say it. Could be a "he" too.) I would never say it's the girl's fault--it's always the person who took advantage of the situation. Like I said, no one ever asks to be raped.<br /><br />And I do want to apologize to you, personally, that what I said offended you. Please know that I would never ever say it was the girl's (or your) fault. I admit that I misspoke and perhaps somewhat ignorantly on the subject. I do apologize and am very sorry.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4055363314023822240.post-13503389271234944552013-03-21T14:10:00.835-07:002013-03-21T14:10:00.835-07:00Wow, I was raped at 16. I was drunk. The guy in qu...Wow, I was raped at 16. I was drunk. The guy in question was my ex-boyfriend, I trusted him. So I should have expected him to rape me? I should have prevented myself from being alone with him? So, therefore, is it my fault that I was raped?<br /><br />You did a good job of explaining yourself here but I'm afraid I still find it very offensive. I can't believe people still say "She was asking for it". This is exactly what perpetutes the blame culture we have. Beckyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00954032264773780641noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4055363314023822240.post-38349232817193795242013-03-21T11:50:16.247-07:002013-03-21T11:50:16.247-07:00This comment has been removed by the author.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4055363314023822240.post-60321869764270963742013-03-21T07:34:53.745-07:002013-03-21T07:34:53.745-07:00Every single time I walk to my car, even if it'...Every single time I walk to my car, even if it's in my parents driveway, I have one eye over my shoulder. I'm always on guard so I can relate to it when you say "every women fears it". I also have a personal association with rape but I rarely discuss it, you can say I can relate deeply to it. Love your post this morning.Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01012931902551980776noreply@blogger.com